Tag: hobbies

  • Take a Year Off Buying Watches—And See What’s Left

    Take a Year Off Buying Watches—And See What’s Left

    Daniel Samayoa and I met at several watch meet-ups in Long Beach, just outside Mimo’s Jewelry. We quickly discovered a shared fascination not only with watches themselves, but with the strange ways timepieces take hold of the mind. With that in mind, Daniel offers a guest post for my blog Cinemorphosis, examining the psychology of watch addiction and the habits that keep collectors in its grip:

    At a certain point, the habit stops being a hobby and starts looking like compulsion dressed up as enthusiasm.

    We all like new watches. We also all like taking a good shit. That doesn’t mean you should do it ten times a day and call it a hobby.

    The same principle applies to watch collecting. Just because you feel the urge doesn’t mean you need to act on it. That “great value” diver you just discovered—the one you’re convinced is different this time—will likely be worn twice before it disappears into the padded anonymity of your watch box.

    And that’s the problem.

    You tell yourself you’re building a collection, but what you’re really doing is chasing a small hit of excitement with every purchase. The watch isn’t the point. The transaction is. The anticipation is. The brief illusion of completion is.

    Then it fades, and you’re back where you started.

    It shows.

    Some of you don’t have collections. You have accumulation—watch boxes that resemble clearance racks, full of pieces that once felt essential and now feel optional at best.

    Here’s a simple experiment: stop buying watches for a year. Not a month. Not a “cooling-off period.” A full year.

    A one-year hiatus isn’t punishment; it’s diagnostic. When you remove the option to buy, you strip away the easiest form of self-distraction and force the habit into the open. The itch doesn’t disappear—it sharpens. You start to notice when it shows up: late at night, after a long day, in those idle gaps where boredom masquerades as curiosity. Without the relief of a purchase, you’re left to examine the mechanism itself—the rationalizations, the urgency, the quiet belief that the next watch will complete something that has never quite been defined. Over time, the noise subsides. What remains is clarity: which watches you actually reach for, what you value in them, and how much of your “collection” was built on impulse rather than need. The hiatus doesn’t take anything away. It reveals what was never there to begin with.

    More importantly, you’ll be forced to confront what you actually enjoy wearing. Not what impressed you in a YouTube review. Not what felt like a smart deal. The watches that earn wrist time—the ones that fit your life without effort.

    If you own nineteen watches and rotate through four, then you already have your answer. The rest are noise.

    The next time the urge hits, pause. Ask a direct question: does this watch have a clear role in my collection, or am I just bored and looking for stimulation?

    That question alone will eliminate most purchases.

    Then take it one step further: sell what you don’t wear. Not someday. Not when the market is better. Now.

    What remains won’t just be smaller—it will be coherent. Intentional. Yours.

    Because most people don’t need another watch.

    They need restraint.

    And a watch box that reflects decisions, not impulses.

  • When the Hobby Becomes a Spectacle of Torment

    When the Hobby Becomes a Spectacle of Torment

    A man in the watch community watched my Frogman video, declared it had caused him “emotional damage,” and proceeded to prove his point by buying Frogman after Frogman in a spree of excess that seemed to be driven more by torment than joy. 

    The watch hobby already carries enough built-in torment. It doesn’t need to be escalated into a public ritual of compulsion. When I share a video about a watch I enjoy, the aim is simple: appreciation, not contagion. Yet in the attention economy, moderation is invisible. What gets rewarded is escalation—bigger reactions, louder confessions, more dramatic spirals. Attention, after all, is a scarce resource, and the surest way to capture it is to weaponize feeling.

    But there is a cost to that performance. When a hobby becomes tethered to the language of “emotional damage,” something has gone wrong. The line between enjoyment and dependency blurs, and what should be a small, contained pleasure metastasizes into something heavier—something that follows you around, nags at you, drains you.

    The only countermeasure is deliberate restraint. We have to regulate our intake of the digital world the way we regulate food—set limits, step away, return to the analog. Read a book. Play the piano. Lift something heavy. Walk outside without a device narrating your existence. Relearn what it feels like to occupy your own life without commentary.

    If someone discovers the Frogman and it brings them genuine satisfaction, that’s a good outcome. But if it becomes another entry point into a cycle of restless acquisition and theatrical distress, then the watch is no longer the problem—it’s the system surrounding it.

    I can’t control what anyone does after watching a video. No one can. The only thing I can do is speak plainly about the effect this environment has on me, and about the boundaries I’ve had to build to keep a hobby from turning into something corrosive. That’s not a solution. It’s a discipline. And it’s ongoing.

  • When Too Much Self-Awareness Kills the Hobby

    When Too Much Self-Awareness Kills the Hobby

    Your watch doomsday routine was entertaining at first. The addiction jokes, the madness metaphors, the psychological autopsies—it all had bite. But over time, the act hardened into a script. Same diagnosis, same grim prognosis, same weary punchline: the hobby is a pathology and you are its patient. What began as sharp self-awareness slowly turned into background noise. When every watch conversation ends in a cautionary tale, the insight stops sounding wise and starts sounding tired.

    Yes, the hobby has its absurdities. Grown men tracking bezel action like lab technicians. Endless forum debates about lume longevity and strap chemistry. The theater of acquisition, the drama of regret. It’s funny because it’s true. But truth has a shadow side: if you keep rehearsing the dysfunction, you begin to believe dysfunction is the whole story. And it isn’t. Watches are also craft, design, history, engineering, ritual, friendship, and—most dangerously of all—simple pleasure.

    Push the pessimism too far and you commit a quiet act of vandalism against your own life. Years of learning, refining your taste, and assembling a disciplined collection suddenly feel like evidence in a case against yourself. Instead of appreciation, you feel suspicion. Instead of satisfaction, you feel embarrassment. The hobby becomes a courtroom where enjoyment is treated as a character flaw.

    So ease off the throttle. Keep your critical edge—persnickety is part of the fun—but let some sunlight into the room. You don’t need to romanticize the hobby, but you don’t need to prosecute it either. Otherwise, you’ll fall into the Self-Sabotage Loop: the habit of undermining your own enjoyment by endlessly rehearsing the hobby’s worst traits—addiction, immaturity, manipulation—until pleasure itself feels irresponsible. That’s the trap. Too invested to quit. Too cynical to enjoy.

    The goal isn’t innocence. It’s balance. Own the flaws. Then wear the watch anyway.