Cinemorphosis

Tag: fiction

  • The Late-Life Ninja State 

    The Late-Life Ninja State 

    I was sixty-four years and ten months old, walking across campus in the early afternoon after teaching my student-athletes about sports-betting addiction in freshman composition. I was heading toward the multilevel parking structure when an enormous young man approached from the opposite direction.

    He was about twenty, perhaps six-foot-five and easily three hundred pounds. Dark-rimmed glasses gave him a studious, slightly nerdy appearance. His black pants were stretched tight, while an enormous T-shirt had been tucked into them with a commitment to fashion I did not entirely understand.

    As we passed, he suddenly stopped.

    He was staring at my feet.

    “Those look super comfortable,” he said. “Are those the Ghost Max 3s?”

    I looked down at my gray Brooks running shoes.

    “Yes.”

    Apparently, my testimony was insufficient.

    “Can I see the bottom?”

    I stared at him.

    He explained that “Ghost Max 3” was printed somewhere on the sole and he wanted visual confirmation.

    Now I faced a logistical problem.

    I could remove the shoe, which seemed cumbersome. Or I could remain standing and somehow present the bottom of my foot to a six-foot-five stranger in the middle of campus.

    I chose the latter.

    I planted my left foot, leaned my torso forward, and extended my right leg behind me until I had achieved something resembling a Romanian deadlift crossed with yoga airplane pose. There I stood—a sixty-four-year-old writing professor balancing on one leg in a parking structure while a three-hundred-pound college student conducted forensic analysis of my footwear.

    He examined the sole.

    There it was.

    Ghost Max 3.

    He erupted with delight.

    I had never seen anyone so happy to authenticate a running shoe.

    He thanked me profusely, and I returned to an upright position with whatever dignity remained available.

    Ordinarily, I might have found such a request intrusive. Why should a complete stranger stop me and demand access to the underside of my shoe? What was next? Would he need the serial number? Should I produce a receipt and two forms of identification?

    But I wasn’t offended.

    I understood him immediately.

    He was me.

    Not literally, thank God. If I suddenly became six-foot-five and three hundred pounds, my entire wardrobe would become an emergency. But psychologically, I recognized the condition.

    The young man had the fever.

    I have suffered from the same fever for decades.

    When I’m fascinated by something, normal social boundaries become surprisingly negotiable. I have accosted complete strangers wearing Grand Seikos, Seiko Monsters, and Tudor Pelagos. A man innocently drinking coffee while using a Lenovo ThinkPad can suddenly find himself being interrogated by me about his processor, screen brightness, battery life, keyboard travel, and thermal management.

    He had planned to drink a latte.

    Now he’s discussing nits.

    So when this young man stopped me to investigate my Brooks Ghost Max 3s, I couldn’t condemn him. Hobby obsessives recognize one another across categories. Watches. Computers. Running shoes. Different objects, same neurological disturbance.

    Still, I had to admit that I had never asked a stranger to perform an acrobatic maneuver so I could inspect the bottom of his shoe.

    That was advanced work.

    And yet something else about the encounter struck me.

    I wasn’t embarrassed.

    Presumably, other people were walking through the parking structure. Someone may have looked over and seen an aging bald professor suddenly assume yoga airplane pose while an enormous young man crouched nearby studying his sneaker.

    At an earlier age, I might have become acutely conscious of the spectacle.

    What do these people think I’m doing?

    Do I look ridiculous?

    Should I explain?

    At sixty-four years and ten months, I couldn’t have cared less.

    This, I realized, was The Late-Life Ninja State: the stage of life when you remain perfectly capable of recognizing how ridiculous you may look but discover that the opinions of random witnesses have lost most of their power over you.

    This is not the same as becoming oblivious.

    The ninja knows.

    The ninja simply doesn’t care.

    Age takes plenty from us. Hair disappears. Knees become temperamental. Metabolism develops a sense of humor. Restaurant lighting becomes suspiciously dim. You begin making small involuntary noises when rising from chairs.

    But perhaps age gives something back.

    You gradually escape the imaginary tribunal.

    For much of life, we move through public spaces carrying an invisible audience inside our heads. How do I look? What will they think? Did that sound stupid? Am I dressed correctly? Did anyone see that?

    Eventually you begin to understand that almost nobody is paying attention.

    And the few people who are paying attention don’t matter.

    The stranger who watched me balance on one leg will not be discussing the incident at dinner.

    “Anything interesting happen today?”

    “Yes. At approximately 1:17 p.m., I observed an older man displaying the sole of his Brooks Ghost Max 3 to a very large student.”

    Even if he does tell the story, what have I lost?

    Nothing.

    Retirement has been making me think obsessively about the things age takes away: income, professional identity, routine, colleagues, relevance, automatic social contact. But perhaps I should keep an inventory of the things age removes that I am delighted to lose.

    Embarrassment belongs near the top of the list.

    The Late-Life Ninja State is not indifference to other people. If anything, it may make human encounters easier. Once you stop devoting so much energy to managing your appearance, you become freer to participate in the strange little improvisations that life keeps offering.

    A young man wanted to see the bottom of my shoe.

    I showed him.

    He was delighted.

    I was amused.

    Nobody died of embarrassment.

    And somewhere in the near future, I suspect that young man will walk into a shoe store and buy himself a pair of Brooks Ghost Max 3s.

    May they cushion his considerable frame.

    May they carry him many comfortable miles.

    And may he someday reach an age when, without hesitation or apology, he too will stand on one leg in a parking structure for a complete stranger.

  • The Walking Companion Principle

    The Walking Companion Principle

    A few weeks before the beginning of what would be my final fall semester teaching college writing, my family spent a week in Carlsbad.

    One morning we ate breakfast at the French Corner. I ordered a savory crepe and drank coffee softened with milk, cinnamon, and honey. The meal achieved that increasingly rare equilibrium in which you leave neither hungry nor incapacitated. I was full but not bloated, caffeinated but not vibrating, satisfied without immediately wondering what I might eat next. For several fleeting minutes, I experienced something approaching perfection. The meal did not merely fill my stomach; it seemed to quiet some hidden chamber of the soul that normally conducts emergency meetings around the clock.

    Then we wandered into downtown Carlsbad.

    My family disappeared into a used record store while I remained outside. I have never understood the romance people attach to the smell of old books, record sleeves, and aging paper. To enthusiasts, the aroma evokes libraries, childhood, discovery, civilization. To me it smells like mildew wearing a tweed jacket.

    So I waited on the sidewalk and did what I often do when temporarily deprived of distraction: I conducted an inventory of my deficiencies.

    Twenty extra pounds.

    Inconsistent discipline.

    A tendency to overthink everything.

    And, increasingly, the suspicion that I required more regular companionship than I had previously been willing to admit.

    Then I saw two men walking toward me.

    They appeared to be in their early seventies, and I assumed they were retired. Both wore safari hats, T-shirts, shorts, and tennis shoes. Their phones rested harmlessly in their back pockets rather than occupying the command center of their consciousness. They walked side by side, talking with the effortless rhythm of men who had probably traveled this route together hundreds of times.

    They laughed.

    They listened.

    Neither seemed compelled to dominate the conversation, check a notification, document the walk, measure engagement, cultivate a personal brand, or inform the world that he was currently walking.

    They were simply two men walking.

    Their calves caught my attention. These were not gym-manufactured calves, inflated through heroic campaigns involving protein powder, compression sleeves, and motivational playlists. They were walking calves: lean, hard, unremarkable, the product of thousands of ordinary miles accumulated without fanfare. Both men looked younger than plenty of men twenty years their junior because their bodies had quietly become advertisements for moderation.

    I envied them immediately.

    Certainly I envied their leanness. I am not spiritually advanced enough to pretend otherwise. But what I really envied was the life their bodies implied.

    These men had apparently solved a problem I had been treating as several different problems. They did not need to schedule exercise and then separately schedule friendship. They had fused the two. Their physical fitness and social fitness occupied the same hour.

    They had discovered what I began to think of as The Walking Companion Principle: one of the most valuable pieces of retirement infrastructure is another human being who reliably walks beside you.

    Consider the efficiency.

    Walking provides cardiovascular exercise, mobility, sunlight, fresh air, routine, and protection against the gradual transformation of the human body into upholstered furniture. A companion provides conversation, laughter, accountability, perspective, and evidence that you still exist outside your own head. Combine the two and you have created a remarkably sophisticated health intervention requiring almost no technology.

    Shoes.

    Friend.

    Walk.

    Repeat tomorrow.

    No bestselling self-help book is required. No wellness retreat in Sedona. No twelve-week optimization protocol administered by a forty-two-year-old podcaster who owns a cryogenic chamber and hasn’t eaten a carbohydrate since the finale of Breaking Bad.

    Just show up.

    What unsettled me was that the principle seemed particularly important for retirement while having almost nothing specifically to do with retirement. It was simply a principle for living well.

    You take care of your body.

    You walk every day.

    You eat reasonably.

    You cultivate friendships.

    You show up.

    You repeat the process tomorrow.

    These truths possess none of the glamour of revelation. Nobody returns from a monastery in Nepal and announces that he has discovered the importance of taking a walk with a friend. Common sense suffers from terrible marketing.

    Yet the older I get, the more suspicious I become that common sense may contain considerably more wisdom than the elaborate intellectual systems I’ve spent decades examining.

    Standing outside that record store, I began wondering whether I had spent much of my life practicing Existential Overfishing—casting my line ever deeper into the waters of ultimate meaning while ignoring perfectly good fish swimming near the surface.

    I had contemplated religion, mortality, consciousness, transcendence, identity, purpose, and the possibility of God. I had read books by people who had spent their entire lives thinking about these subjects, followed them into increasingly deep philosophical waters, and occasionally surfaced gasping for air with another seven books I apparently needed to read.

    Meanwhile, two retired men in safari hats walked past me and accidentally delivered the executive summary.

    Move your body.

    Find someone you like.

    Talk.

    Keep doing it.

    Could it really be that simple?

    Is common sense enough?

    Could common sense sometimes be superior to profound religious contemplation?

    Had I submerged myself beneath an ocean of fascinating but largely irrelevant abstractions?

    Had I mistaken intellectual complexity for spiritual maturity?

    Had I spent years searching for the meaning of life while failing to notice some of its operating instructions?

    Had I, after all these years, simply lost the plot?

    The questions left me strangely melancholy because the Walking Companion Principle contained an obvious problem.

    When I retired, who would walk beside me?

    Employment had supplied more social infrastructure than I had realized. For forty years, people simply appeared. Students entered classrooms. Colleagues materialized in hallways. Someone stopped outside my office. Conversations occurred because hundreds of people had been deposited into the same institution at approximately the same time.

    Retirement would dismantle much of that machinery.

    Free time would increase precisely as automatic human contact decreased.

    I could walk alone, of course. I could listen to podcasts. I could listen to audiobooks. I could march five miles while absorbing fascinating information about theology, politics, artificial intelligence, crime, nutrition, or the collapse of Western civilization.

    But headphones are not companions.

    A podcast host does not notice when you fail to show up.

    An audiobook does not laugh at your joke.

    The men disappearing down the Carlsbad sidewalk possessed something I suddenly wanted very badly: another person who expected them to be there.

    I didn’t know whether I would find such a companion in retirement. I didn’t know what could substitute for one if I couldn’t. I didn’t know whether my melancholy was justified or merely another example of my ability to turn an innocent morning into an existential emergency.

    But I had learned something.

    Perhaps retirement would not require some magnificent new philosophy capable of replacing forty years of professional identity. Perhaps the essential architecture would be embarrassingly ordinary: decent food, regular movement, human companionship, curiosity, and enough discipline to show up again tomorrow.

    I stood outside the record store watching the two men disappear into the distance.

    I still didn’t know what I was going to do with the rest of my life.

    But I knew exactly where I wanted to eat breakfast the next morning.

  • Congratulations on Your Retirement: Your Organs Have Been Notified

    Congratulations on Your Retirement: Your Organs Have Been Notified

    You should never have initiated your retirement.

    Unfortunately, this revelation has arrived several months too late.

    Dozens of colleagues already know. Administrators know. People in offices you have never visited know. Your dean has not yet made the official announcement, but that is merely a ceremonial delay. He is waiting for you to complete the college’s online retirement form, which you plan to submit after your CalSTRS exit interview next month. The machinery is already humming. Your name is moving through calendars, spreadsheets, succession plans, and whispered hallway conversations.

    Technically, you could reverse course.

    Psychologically, you would rather fake your own death.

    Imagine announcing to everyone who has congratulated you, hugged you, envied you, or quietly begun calculating how much larger their office might become that you have reconsidered. “Good news, everyone. I’m staying.” You would have the social grace of a man who delivers an emotional farewell speech at his retirement banquet, receives a gold watch, walks toward the exit, pauses at the door, and says, “Actually, I’ll see you Monday.”

    No.

    The humiliation alone guarantees forward motion.

    Still, let us acknowledge the obvious: perhaps you should never have retired in the first place. Perhaps nobody should retire. If you are healthy enough to work, keep working. Work gives you money, structure, social contact, identity, deadlines, relevance, and a reason to shower before noon. Retirement gives you Tuesday.

    Let us first look at your cash flow.

    At first, your retirement income may be only twenty percent lower than your working income. Twenty percent sounds manageable until you remember that restaurants have discovered they can charge eighteen dollars for a sandwich. A decent takeout dinner for a family of four now crosses the hundred-dollar line with the casual confidence of a hedge-fund manager ordering lunch. Then inflation begins nibbling around the edges of your fixed income. The twenty-percent gap becomes thirty. Perhaps forty. Suddenly the golden years are less about cruises through the Mediterranean and more about standing in the kitchen asking whether anyone really needs guacamole.

    But the financial loss may not be the most frightening part.

    The real danger is psychological.

    The mind and body are conspirators.

    Consider the bladder. You can be driving home for forty-five minutes with only mild discomfort. Your body remains disciplined. Stoic. Heroic. Then you turn onto your own street.

    Disaster.

    The house comes into view and your bladder declares a national emergency. Thirty seconds earlier you were a functioning adult. Now you are fumbling with the garage-door opener like a bomb technician whose hands have stopped obeying him.

    The bathroom did not create the need.

    Its proximity gave the body permission to stop pretending.

    Welcome to the Bathroom-Proximity Principle of Retirement: the theory that employment functions like a distant rest stop. As long as work remains ahead of you, your body receives the message that the trip is still underway. There are classes to teach, papers to grade, meetings to attend, colleagues to annoy, students to encourage, problems to solve. The machinery must remain operational.

    Then you retire.

    The metaphysical bathroom appears on the horizon.

    Your subconscious surveys the situation and says, “Excellent. We’ve arrived.”

    Different parts of your body begin to shut down.

    The knees file for disability. The lower back reduces operating hours. The prostate announces an infrastructure project. Your memory starts placing ordinary nouns in long-term storage. You sit in your recliner at ten-thirty in the morning watching a documentary about container ships and wonder whether your body has interpreted retirement not as freedom but as permission to begin dismantling the facility.

    Is any of this medically sound?

    Almost certainly not.

    That is beside the point.

    You are experiencing retirement buyer’s remorse, and buyer’s remorse is not known for peer review.

    Add to this the possible loss of relevance. For decades, people needed you somewhere. Students waited for your class. Colleagues emailed you. Administrators summoned you to meetings you did not want to attend. Your irritation was proof of your importance. Retirement threatens to remove not only the irritation but also the flattering assumption beneath it: somebody expects you to show up.

    So if you have not yet retired, interrogate the decision ruthlessly. Examine the money. Examine your health. Examine your tolerance for unstructured time. Ask whether you possess interests powerful enough to replace the gravitational pull of work.

    And if, after all that, you still decide to retire, understand what you are doing.

    You are not merely leaving a job.

    You are driving home.

    The bathroom is getting closer.

  • There Was No Final Visit

    There Was No Final Visit

    Last night I dreamed I was driving slowly down a long, sloping road on my way to an important appointment at a mysterious nightclub. I knew almost nothing about the place except that outside its entrance sat a haunted statue of an angry man, and that somehow I was required to present myself before him.

    As I descended the hill, another car shot past me at a reckless speed. I watched it accelerate and knew immediately what was going to happen. The driver lost control. The car veered off course and began flipping violently, metal striking pavement, the vehicle tumbling again and again before finally coming to rest in a mangled heap.

    I stopped and ran toward the wreckage.

    The injured man had recently been released from prison. Somehow I knew this without being told. He had already endured brutality, hunger, and dehydration during his confinement, and now the crash had added another layer of suffering. He was alive but in unbearable pain. I lifted him onto my shoulder and carried him toward a nearby house, although I had no idea who lived there or why I believed help could be found inside.

    Once through the door, instinct told me to take him into the living room.

    Above the fireplace was a large screen.

    It suddenly came alive.

    An old woman appeared, perhaps in her seventies. She had the unmistakable presence of a witch—not the theatrical kind with a pointed hat and broomstick, but something older and more disturbing, a woman whose authority seemed to precede explanation. She instructed me to bring the injured man closer.

    Then the boundary between the screen and the room dissolved.

    The witch somehow acquired a physical body behind the screen. She took the broken man to her breast and began nursing him. The scene was grotesque and maternal at once: an elderly supernatural woman feeding a battered former prisoner as if he were an enormous newborn. Yet I understood that he desperately needed what she was giving him. After prison, thirst, starvation, violence, and the crash, he was finally receiving nourishment.

    Satisfied that I had delivered him to someone capable of saving him, I left.

    My appointment remained.

    I continued down the road until I reached the nightclub. Outside, sitting on a bench like a malevolent sentry, was the statue of the angry man.

    He was waiting for me.

    The statue demanded something vital from inside my soul. Whatever he required could somehow be translated into a numerical code. Push-buttons were embedded in his chest, and I entered the sequence carefully, knowing that a mistake would provoke some unspeakable violence.

    The code worked.

    I was spared.

    Around me were other visitors who had apparently completed the same ritual. They too had surrendered whatever the statue required, entered their codes, and earned permission to proceed into the club. We were the survivors of an initiation none of us had chosen.

    But I felt no relief.

    Slowly, a far more terrible realization came over me. This was not my first visit. I had been here hundreds of times before. I had driven down this road, approached this nightclub, stood before this furious stone man, surrendered some essential fragment of myself, and punched the code into his chest over and over again.

    And I would have to keep doing it.

    There was no final visit. No graduation. No debt that could eventually be paid. I had mistaken repetition for progress. The ritual was permanent.

    I was condemned.

    My only consolation was the injured man. Whatever else this nightmare demanded of me, I had stopped on the road and helped another human being. I had carried him when he could no longer carry himself. Perhaps that small act of mercy meant something in a world governed by witches, haunted statues, secret codes, and compulsory rituals.

    Then another thought occurred to me.

    I had left the man with the witch.

    She had healed him. She had fed him. She had restored what prison and violence had taken away.

    But I had no idea what she intended to do with him once he was strong again.

  • Be Kind to Linda: She’s Trapped in the Maze Too

    Be Kind to Linda: She’s Trapped in the Maze Too

    As you attempt to retire, you will eventually enter the bureaucratic labyrinth and submit yourself to its ritual humiliations: security codes, two-factor authentication, forgotten usernames, password requirements apparently derived from nuclear-launch protocols, contradictory menus, and websites whose navigation systems seem designed to ensure that no citizen ever reaches his intended destination. After enough exposure, you will feel anger rising inside you. Eventually, a human being will answer the telephone, and you will experience an almost irresistible urge to unload the entire accumulated grievance upon her.

    Don’t.

    This is the Misplaced Rage Fallacy: the tendency to direct your fury at the human being who answers the telephone rather than at the labyrinthine system that necessitated the telephone call. After forty-five minutes of authentication codes, password resets, automated voices, contradictory menus, and a website apparently designed by Kafka’s IT department, you finally reach Linda in Benefits and instinctively regard her as the architect of your suffering.

    She isn’t.

    Linda did not design the website. Linda did not decide that your password must contain twelve characters, one uppercase letter, one lowercase letter, two numbers, a hieroglyph, and the blood type of your maternal grandfather. Linda did not send the authentication code to a telephone number you haven’t used since the Obama administration. Linda did not create the seventeen-item telephone menu through which you wandered like a starving hiker lost in the Sierras.

    Linda is trapped in the maze too.

    She just has a headset.

    This brings you to a second discovery, the Institutional Humanity Paradox: the larger, colder, and more impenetrable an institution becomes, the more surprising it is to discover that it is populated by ordinary and frequently decent human beings. There can be a yawning disparity between the personality of a bureaucracy and the character of the people who work inside it. The website treats you like a suspicious package abandoned at airport security. The woman who eventually answers the telephone treats you like a human being.

    This happened to me with CalSTRS. I already had a username and password, dutifully preserved in my records, and naturally neither one worked. I entered them again, because one of the foundational beliefs of modern life is that typing the same rejected password a second time may cause the computer to reconsider its position. It did not. I called CalSTRS, entered the automated telephone labyrinth, requested a callback, and eventually heard the voice of an actual person from the technical-support department.

    She was wonderful.

    For twenty minutes, she stayed on the telephone while we reconstructed my digital identity. She explained that a new system introduced about a year earlier had rendered my previous credentials obsolete, which was comforting in the same way that learning your house key no longer works because someone replaced the house is comforting. Then she patiently escorted me through every miserable step required to establish a new account. She never became impatient. She never spoke to me in the singsong voice adults sometimes use with people who cannot locate the settings menu. She never suggested that the problem was obvious and that any reasonably evolved primate should have solved it without assistance. She was kind, competent, patient, and helpful.

    Eventually, she transferred me to another department so that I could arrange a Zoom appointment. There I encountered another pleasant woman who tried to find me an opening. Unfortunately, the appointments were booked for approximately six weeks. She suggested that I call again the following week and see whether something had opened.

    What was I supposed to do—blame her?

    She had not personally filled the calendar. She had not constructed a retirement system in which someone approaching retirement must schedule a meeting six weeks into the future to discuss how to stop working in the present. She was simply sitting at her desk, looking at the same overstuffed calendar I was confronting from the other end of the telephone.

    She was a cog in the machine, but she had not built the machine.

    This distinction matters. Being rude to the people who take your calls is not merely bad manners; it is strategically idiotic. You are punishing innocent people, alienating precisely those human beings who possess the knowledge necessary to rescue you, and burning emotional fuel you will desperately need during your next gladiatorial encounter with a retirement application.

    Save your rage for the proper target: the system.

    Be kind to Linda.

    Thank the technical-support representative who spends twenty minutes resurrecting your account. Be gracious to the benefits counselor who cannot manufacture an appointment that doesn’t exist. Remember that these people also have mortgages, families, passwords, insurance companies, malfunctioning websites, dental appointments, aging parents, and bureaucracies of their own. At five o’clock they remove their headsets and become civilians again, whereupon some other institution begins tormenting them.

    Never confuse the personality of an institution with the character of the people imprisoned inside it.

    And when you feel yourself reaching the point at which you might begin screaming at innocent strangers, close the laptop. Walk away from the battlefield. Have a healthy snack. Lie down for a restorative nap with your eyeshades and cucumber mask. Allow your nervous system to forget the existence of authentication codes.

    Tomorrow you can return refreshed in body and spirit.

  • The Acquisition Readiness Principle of Certain Watch Enthusiasts

    The Acquisition Readiness Principle of Certain Watch Enthusiasts

    Six months ago, I bought a G-Shock GW-6900 and quickly convinced myself that it wasn’t for me. I already owned two G-Shocks—the Frogman and the Rescue—and two, I decided, were enough. I had achieved that mythical state every watch collector claims to desire and almost none can tolerate: contentment.

    There was also the 6900 strap. It was just a little too short. Once I buckled the watch around my wrist, I had only two holes remaining. The watch fit perfectly well, but in the fevered jurisprudence of watch collecting, two unused holes constituted evidence for the prosecution.

    So I put the 6900 back in its box, requested a return from Amazon, drove to my local UPS Store, and rid myself of the offending object within ten minutes. I felt enormous relief. Order had been restored. I owned exactly two G-Shocks. The collection was disciplined, coherent, complete.

    Naturally, I then bought three more.

    Over the ensuing months, the Mudman GW-9500 arrived, followed by the Mudman G-9300 and the King GXW-56. My austere two-watch collection had swollen to five, and I happily rotated among them while apparently forgetting the solemn principles of restraint that had compelled me to return the 6900.

    Then, about a month ago, the 6900 began haunting me.

    I started looking at photographs. I read discussions. I watched videos. I studied that strange face with its three circular indicators staring back at me like the instrument panel of a tiny Cold War submarine. Enthusiasts call the GW-6900 “The Three-Eyed Monster,” which is a perfectly good nickname. I prefer my own: the Triclops.

    Soon the Triclops was everywhere. I couldn’t get it out of my mind. The watch I had dispatched to UPS with the efficiency of a man returning a defective toaster had somehow acquired an aura in its absence.

    So I bought it again.

    It is now in transit and should arrive in a few days.

    I don’t remember whether the first GW-6900 I owned was the older version with the greenish electroluminescent backlight. I do know that the incoming watch is the newer GW-6900U-1, with its bright white LED. More important, I am strangely confident that this time I am going to connect with it.

    I’ve experienced this phenomenon before: a watch leaves me cold the first time and captivates me later, even though the watch itself has barely changed. Other collectors have experienced it too. It’s tempting to dismiss the whole business as fickleness. We buy something, reject it, romanticize it, and buy it again. From the outside, this resembles the behavior of someone who should have his credit card frozen inside a block of ice.

    But I think something more interesting is going on.

    Collectors like to imagine that our reactions reside entirely in the objects themselves. A watch either speaks to us or it doesn’t. The dimensions are right or wrong. The dial works or it doesn’t. The strap fits or it doesn’t. We behave as if we were laboratory instruments registering objective measurements.

    We’re not.

    Timing matters. Mood matters. The condition of the existing collection matters. Most of all, our willingness to admit another object into that collection matters. Sometimes we encounter the right watch at the wrong time.

    This is what I call the Acquisition Readiness Principle: the psychological state in which a collector becomes genuinely receptive to incorporating a new object into an established collection.

    The first time the GW-6900 arrived, I was defending the sufficiency of my Frogman and Rescue. I wanted a small collection. I was guarding my wrist rotation like a suburban homeowner defending his property line. The 6900 wasn’t merely another watch; it was an intruder. Its slightly short strap gave me the excuse I needed to evict it.

    Six months later, the watch is essentially the same. I am not.

    Now there is a vacancy waiting for the Triclops.

    This raises an obvious question: How can anyone possibly be “not ready” for a wristwatch?

    The question itself exposes the magnificent lunacy of the hobby. We don’t merely buy watches. We audition them. We assign them roles. We decide whether they overlap with existing members of the collection. We worry about whether they will receive enough wrist time. We speak of watches “connecting” with us, as though a 50-millimeter lump of resin containing a quartz module were an emotionally complicated rescue dog.

    A new watch therefore requires a certain receiving mode. We have to lower the drawbridge. We have to stop protecting the existing collection long enough to imagine another member belonging there. The object has not changed. The collector has.

    Does this sound nuts?

    Of course it does.

    The most honest watch enthusiasts have long since abandoned the pretense that this is an entirely rational hobby. But perhaps the watches aren’t making us crazy. We’re doing that perfectly well ourselves. We take harmless little machines designed to tell us the time and burden them with identity, nostalgia, status, memory, personality, tribal affiliation, and elaborate theories of Acquisition Readiness.

    Then we give the hobby a bad name.

    It’s one of the things we’re most proud of.

  • Sovereignty Erosion

    Sovereignty Erosion

    Last night I dreamed I had houseguests when a group of strangers, apparently Russian, simply entered my home. They didn’t knock, sneak in, or offer an explanation. They arrived with the serene entitlement of people checking into an Airbnb for which I had somehow misplaced the reservation.

    Within minutes they had colonized the place. They used the kitchen. They occupied the bathroom. They took showers. One man wandered around completely naked, his body covered with tattoos, apparently having concluded that sufficient quantities of ink constituted clothing.

    I ordered them to leave.

    They regarded this request as mildly inconvenient.

    I had to tell them several times before they finally gathered themselves and departed. Even then, there was no embarrassment, apology, or acknowledgment that commandeering a stranger’s house might represent a minor breach of etiquette. They walked out with the composure of airline passengers who had accidentally taken the wrong seats and moved only after I produced the boarding passes.

    A few hours later, they came back.

    Apparently my eviction had been interpreted not as a permanent revocation of access but as a temporary scheduling conflict. Once again, I had to order them out. Once again, they eventually complied with the weary patience of people humoring an unreasonable homeowner.

    Then another stranger appeared: a woman in her fifties making watch videos in my atrium. She had apparently identified my home as an excellent location for horological content creation. I told her to leave. She ignored me. I told her again. Nothing. By the fifth command, I was yelling. She finally departed reluctantly, as though I were the lunatic disrupting her production schedule.

    At this point, my houseguests told me to call the police.

    I retreated into a dark room and tried to dial the number. But my fingers wouldn’t cooperate. I pressed the wrong numbers. I tried again. Wrong again. The simple act of operating a telephone had become an advanced neurological procedure. I knew exactly what I needed to do, yet the message from my brain seemed to lose voltage somewhere on its journey to my hands.

    My body felt like an electric car limping along with one percent battery: the machinery intact, the destination known, the accelerator pressed, but almost no current left to move the thing.

    Then my hands stopped working altogether.

    That was when irritation gave way to helplessness and finally despair. The strangers were almost beside the point. The true nightmare was discovering that ownership itself had become meaningless. The house was mine. The doors were mine. The rooms were mine. I possessed every legitimate claim to decide who entered and who left, yet my authority seemed to exist only insofar as other people voluntarily recognized it.

    I had entered a state of Sovereignty Erosion: the nightmare sensation of watching authority over one’s own territory gradually dissolve. You own the house. You issue the commands. You possess every legal and moral claim to the space. Yet strangers stroll through your kitchen, shower in your bathroom, film watch videos in your atrium, and behave as though your sovereignty were merely a suggestion awaiting their approval.

    The most frightening intruders, apparently, don’t break down the door.

    They walk through it and wonder why you’re making such a fuss.

  • The Rearview Great White

    The Rearview Great White

    This morning I drove my daughter and her friend from Torrance to Knott’s Berry Farm, a forty-minute journey that included the usual Southern California ritual of surrendering a portion of one’s life to the freeway.

    On the 91 East, I settled into the diamond lane and soon acquired a companion: a pearl-white Toyota Grand Highlander attached to my rear bumper.

    He stayed there for roughly twelve miles.

    I wasn’t crawling. The driver simply wanted to go faster, and apparently the laws of physics required that he communicate this desire by positioning several thousand pounds of Toyota close enough to inspect the stitching on my back seat.

    About five miles before the Beach Boulevard exit, traffic began slowing. I soon saw why. Two lanes to my right was a California Highway Patrol cruiser.

    Everyone underwent the customary freeway conversion.

    Brake lights appeared.

    Speedometers suddenly became objects of intense scholarly interest.

    Drivers who had been doing eighty-five seconds earlier discovered within themselves a deep and previously unsuspected commitment to public safety.

    The Grand Highlander, however, had apparently missed the announcement.

    He illegally crossed out of the diamond lane, accelerated past me, and continued charging ahead.

    I watched with fascination.

    Surely he’ll see the CHP.

    He didn’t.

    Surely he’ll slow down.

    He didn’t.

    Then he passed the patrol car.

    The CHP officer noticed him immediately.

    The cruiser pulled out.

    It moved behind the Highlander.

    And at that moment, the entire psychological structure of the freeway changed.

    The Highlander hit the brakes.

    Too late.

    The lights came on.

    This is what I call The Rearview Great White: that primitive surge of terror you experience when a police cruiser appears behind you with its lights flashing and you realize, after several desperate seconds of denial, that you are the intended meal.

    There is always that brief period of bargaining.

    Maybe he’s after somebody else.

    You change lanes.

    He changes lanes.

    Maybe he needs me to move aside.

    You move farther right.

    He follows.

    The fin is circling.

    Imagine swimming a hundred yards offshore at Redondo Beach and seeing the dorsal fin of a great white shark rise from the water behind you.

    That’s close enough.

    The Highlander driver, who moments earlier had been exercising dominion over the 91 Freeway, was now prey.

    I expected to feel some schadenfreude.

    I didn’t.

    Partly because I’ve driven more aggressively than I should have myself. Moral superiority becomes difficult when the prosecution has access to your own driving record.

    More importantly, I didn’t think his behavior quite deserved the emotional death penalty.

    On my personal Aggression Scale, I’d give him a six.

    Annoying? Absolutely.

    Reckless? Certainly.

    But I’ve seen eights and nines—the true freeway psychopaths who cross four lanes at ninety miles an hour as though auditioning for a role in Grand Theft Auto: Gardena.

    Had the Highlander been an eight, I might have enjoyed watching the CHP cruiser descend upon him like divine judgment.

    At six, I mostly felt sorry for him.

    I told my passengers that the poor guy was probably hyperventilating.

    Because seeing the lights is only the beginning.

    Now you have to pull over.

    This sounds easy until your nervous system has reverted to that of a gazelle being pursued across the Serengeti. You must find a safe location, activate the turn signal, change lanes, slow down, and demonstrate to the officer that you’re a stable citizen rather than someone about to flee the country.

    Then comes the roadside personality transformation.

    The aggressive driver disappears.

    The tailgater disappears.

    The man who fifteen seconds earlier regarded traffic laws as suggestions issued by lesser men is gone.

    In his place appears the most agreeable citizen in California.

    “Yes, Officer.”

    “Absolutely, Officer.”

    “Of course, Officer.”

    Meanwhile, his shirt is soaked through. His back is glued to the seat. His heart is trying to escape through his sternum.

    The Highlander followed the CHP cruiser down the offramp toward Knott’s Berry Farm, and I continued on my way.

    No triumph.

    No fist pump.

    Just sympathy for a man who had spent twelve miles imagining himself the predator.

    Then he looked in his rearview mirror.

    And saw the fin.

  • Breakfast Eschatology

    Breakfast Eschatology

    I no longer want to resolve my eschatological crisis.

    I don’t want to determine the nature of substitutionary atonement, theodicy, and eternity. I don’t want to debate whether hell is eternal, corrective, metaphorical, mistranslated, or the unfortunate product of several centuries of theologians getting overexcited. I’m tired of sifting through my epistemic crisis as though somewhere beneath a pile of Greek nouns I will finally uncover the laminated instruction sheet for the universe.

    I’ve also given up on perfection, physical, spiritual, and otherwise.

    What I really want is a good breakfast.

    Not breakfast at home. Home breakfast has its virtues, but it is essentially maintenance. Oatmeal. Yogurt. Berries. Protein. The nutritional equivalent of changing the oil.

    I want to go to a café.

    A good one.

    I want banana-nut French toast, buttermilk pancakes, poblano eggs Benedict, crisp potatoes, and a waitress approaching with a coffee pot before I’ve even noticed that my cup is half empty.

    More importantly, I want people. Lots of them.

    A true breakfast is communal. Certain movies become better when watched in a packed theater, where laughter moves through the audience like electricity. Breakfast works the same way.

    The lonely café is hell on earth.

    Three customers scattered across twenty empty tables. Fluorescent lights humming overhead. A laminated menu curling at the corners. Somewhere in the kitchen, a microwave beeps with the melancholy finality of a hospital monitor.

    Technically, breakfast is being served.

    Spiritually, the place is already closed.

    The packed café is another universe.

    You open the door and hear the glorious racket of human appetite. Forks strike plates. Coffee cups land on saucers. Children negotiate syrup distribution. Servers weave between tables carrying platters of eggs and potatoes. The room smells of coffee, butter, toasted bread, maple syrup, and potatoes surrendering magnificently to the griddle.

    Every table is occupied.

    A line waits outside.

    This is not merely a restaurant.

    This is evidence.

    I call it Breakfast Eschatology: the abandonment of speculation about ultimate salvation in favor of recognizing modest intimations of heaven in the communal celebration of a magnificent breakfast.

    For years, I have worried about the Last Things.

    What happens after death?

    What is the nature of original sin?

    What are the rigors of postmortem salvation? 

    What did the Greek word aiōnios mean before two thousand years of theology climbed onto its back?

    At some point, the soul develops theological indigestion.

    Enough.

    Bring me the poblano eggs Benedict.

  • The Vanity Portal

    The Vanity Portal

    I have learned that something good can occasionally crawl out of an embarrassing place.

    For years, I have entertained a recurring fantasy so vainglorious that merely describing it makes me want to hide under a table. Yet somewhere inside this monument to my own magnificence, I discovered what I call The Vanity Portal: the strange passage through which a fantasy of being admired unexpectedly opens onto a sincere desire to become good.

    The fantasy takes me back to 1983. I am twenty years old again, working at Jackson’s Wine & Spirits in Berkeley, where I actually worked while attending college. But fantasy has renovated the premises. The wine bar now sits conveniently beside a grand piano, because apparently my unconscious has obtained an unlimited remodeling budget.

    I am not merely an employee.

    I am the entertainment.

    I even have a stage name:

    Lachyrmose.

    There is a ritual to my appearances.

    I am in the beer box, tearing apart cardboard cartons and doing the grubby work of a liquor-store employee, while customers at the wine bar begin demanding music.

    “Lachyrmose!”

    I make them wait.

    “Lachyrmose!”

    Eventually I emerge from the beer box looking like a survivor of industrial combat. Shreds of cardboard cling to my clothes. A sharp carton has scratched my face. My arms bear little cuts and bruises. I am exhausted.

    This is crucial to the fantasy.

    I cannot simply be a gifted pianist. That would be insufficiently magnificent. I must also be a working-class hero who has just finished wrestling cases of beer before casually sitting down at a grand piano and revealing the soul of Rachmaninoff.

    The customers grow quiet.

    Lachyrmose begins to play.

    Melancholy music fills the wine bar.

    On one particularly ambitious occasion, Peter Gabriel and Steve Hackett happen to be sitting among the customers. They are staying at the nearby Claremont Hotel and have wandered into Jackson’s for a little wine and relaxation.

    Naturally, they are astonished.

    Who is this young man?

    Minutes ago he was dismantling beer cartons. Now he is producing music of heartbreaking beauty with a completely formed artistic voice. Gabriel and Hackett exchange glances. They understand immediately that they have stumbled upon some rare creature—a bruised liquor-store employee with the soul of a European composer.

    At this point the fantasy has become so narcissistic that it should probably require a permit.

    But then someone else enters it.

    A homeless woman.

    Unlike Peter Gabriel and Steve Hackett, she comes from an actual memory.

    I remember seeing her near Jackson’s wearing a red wig she had apparently found in a dumpster. She stood before the reflective glass of a newspaper rack, admiring herself in her new acquisition. The wig was garish and artificial, but she looked at her reflection with pleasure. For a moment, this discarded object had given her something beautiful.

    In my fantasy, she joins the customers at the wine bar.

    I begin playing.

    She listens for a while and then falls asleep.

    The melancholy piano music washes over her as she dozes in her ridiculous red wig. Peter Gabriel listens. Steve Hackett listens. The wine drinkers listen. But gradually they cease to matter.

    When the recital ends, the woman wakes.

    She thanks me for the music.

    I give her a bag filled with deli sandwiches to take with her.

    Of course Gabriel and Hackett witness this too. My unconscious is not yet willing to surrender the production entirely. They were already impressed by my piano playing; now they discover that Lachyrmose is also a humanitarian.

    Apparently musical genius wasn’t enough.

    I required sainthood.

    But then the fantasy changes.

    The woman thanks me for the recital and the sandwiches, and I tell her that no thanks are necessary.

    It was an honor to play for her.

    And I mean it.

    That is the moment when I pass through The Vanity Portal.

    Something strange happens. The fantasy stops being entirely about admiration. Peter Gabriel disappears. Steve Hackett disappears. The wine bar disappears. Even Lachyrmose begins to disappear.

    There is only the woman in the red wig.

    And I love her.

    Not romantically. Not sentimentally. I feel an overwhelming tenderness toward this forgotten person who possesses nothing, who found a discarded wig and briefly admired herself in the glass of a newspaper rack.

    In the fantasy, I tell her that playing for her was an honor.

    But the tears aren’t imaginary.

    I am actually sitting at my piano, playing music and crying.

    This is what disturbs me about the fantasy and prevents me from dismissing it as mere narcissistic theater.

    I struggle with Christianity. I struggle with its doctrines, its claims about salvation, its diagnosis of the human condition, and the enormous theological machinery built around Jesus. I can argue with all of it.

    But in that moment at the piano, I experience something I can only describe as the love of Jesus.

    Not doctrine.

    Not theology.

    An impulse.

    The desire to look upon someone whom the world barely sees and regard serving her not as charity but as an honor.

    And suddenly my ridiculous fantasy has shown me something I didn’t know was there.

    I want to be good.

    I want a pure heart.

    Unfortunately, even my fantasy of purity arrives contaminated by vanity. I cannot simply feed a homeless woman. Peter Gabriel and Steve Hackett must be sitting nearby taking notes. I cannot simply play the piano. I must emerge from the beer box bloodied by cardboard, sit before an awestruck audience, and reveal myself as Lachyrmose.

    The ego insists upon producing the show.

    But perhaps this is how The Vanity Portal works.

    We enter carrying our vanity, our fantasies, our desperate need to be admired. We imagine ourselves beautiful, talented, heroic, compassionate. The entire production may be absurd.

    Then, somewhere inside the performance, something genuine appears.

    The fantasy begins:

    Look at me.

    But if we’re fortunate, somewhere along the way another voice emerges:

    Look at her.

    And for a moment, we do.