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Neddy Merrill Disease: Lifting Weights to Outrun the Abyss

I take no glory in training through my 60s. At nearly 64, with a lifting life that began in 1974 amid the clang of Olympic barbells and testosterone-choked gyms, I no longer chase records or applause. These days, I chase mobility. I chase not falling apart. A nagging flare of golfer’s elbow—inner right, thank you very much—has made its uninvited return, forcing me to swap kettlebell rows for gentler “lawnmower” pulls and abandon my beloved open-palm curls in favor of reverse curls, the orthopedic equivalent of safe sex.

There was a time, of course, when I confused self-worth with showing off. I strutted under heavy weights in the ‘70s through the ‘90s like a tragic extra from Pumping Iron, nursing shredded rotator cuffs and wrecked lumbar discs in my quest to impress… well, no one, really. The mirror? My dad? Arnold? These days I tiptoe a tightrope between intensity and injury, trying to silence the reckless ghost of my twenty-year-old self who still believes he’s indestructible.

This tug-of-war with time reminds me of Neddy Merrill, the doomed protagonist in John Cheever’s “The Swimmer,” who tries to recapture youth by swimming across his neighbors’ pools like a suburban Odysseus, only to arrive at his own foreclosed house—empty, echoing, and final. I see flashes of my own Neddy Merrill alter ego every time I glimpse my neighbor, a sturdy cop in his early 40s, shepherding his twin teenage sons off to jiu-jitsu. I envy them—their youth, their purpose, their untouched joints. But I remind myself that comparison is the mother of misery. I don’t train for glory anymore. I train because the alternative is to surrender to frailty, to collapse into a slow-motion horror film of decay. I train because being strong is still cheaper than therapy, and it’s the only middle finger I can raise at time’s relentless advance.

June 9, 2025
From Shawarma to Swing Sets: A Kettlebell Fitness Cultist Takes a Break
I took a rare sabbatical from my kettlebell gospel this Memorial Sunday to bask in the company of my cousin Pete and Aunt Sherry in Studio City—because even iron addicts need a cheat day, preferably one involving shawarma and nostalgia. We spent eight hours doing what old relatives do best: eating like we’re about to hibernate, name-dropping concerts that smelled like patchouli and regret, and arguing over which decade had the best moral compass (spoiler: none of them).

Pete and I go way back—Haight-Ashbury, San Francisco clambakes, enough Passover seders to qualify for spiritual overtime. Our shared memories stretch across seven decades like a shag carpet in a time-warped rec room.

The weather, because of course it was, clocked in at 75 degrees—sunny, breezy, and just obnoxiously pleasant. So much so, we weren’t content with one perfect meal. We closed the day with Korean barbecue that tasted like it had been grilled by angels on a smoke break. Then came the real miracle: we took the 405 back to Torrance and hit no traffic. That’s not just a good omen—it’s borderline apocalyptic.

When we got home, I turned to my wife and said, “The day was too perfect. Should I call a priest or a statistician?”

Once the existential dread of joy wore off, I returned to my senses and thought I’ll be 64 soon. I need to map out my plan to slam heavy iron for the rest of my natural life. A sacred vow, if you will:
- Follow Mark Wildman’s mantra: “Train injury-free today so you can train tomorrow”—not “break yourself now to impress your ego.”
- Heed Pavel’s wisdom: Push to 80–90% failure, not 100%, because no one gets a trophy for tearing their rotator cuff.
- Devour 200 grams of protein a day like it’s my job—and in a way, it is.
- Keep calories under 2,400 so I don’t end up looking like I survived Passover but lost to diabetes.
- Be grateful for my garage gym—no excuses, no sweaty strangers, no corporate playlists.
- Appreciate that my workout intensity still rivals that of my teenage self in the 1970s, minus the acne and naïve dreams of Olympic glory.
- And above all, give thanks that my family doesn’t stage an intervention every time I start rhapsodizing about kettlebell geometry.
In conclusion, it was a dangerously perfect day—full of grilled meats, shared myths, and suspiciously easy freeway exits. I’m not saying I’m suspicious of happiness, but I’m definitely side-eyeing it.
May 25, 2025
From Sweat Temple to Spa Prison: My Gym Breakup Story

There was a time, back in the sepia-toned haze of the 1970s, when the gym was my church and iron was my sacrament. I was a teenage bodybuilder, baptized in sweat and testosterone, and the gym was a crude sanctuary—part locker room, part gladiator pit—where you could grunt, curse, and lift until your eyeballs threatened to pop like grapes. No frills, no air freshener, no nonsense. Just clang, bang, and the occasional chest-pounding primal scream.

Then came the 1980s, when gyms got a makeover. They went corporate. The rusted barbells got swapped for chrome. The boom boxes were silenced in favor of syrupy pop music so chirpy it made your teeth ache. Suddenly, everyone wore genie pants and strutted between machines like peacocks dipped in glitter. I soldiered on, of course, slogging through the artificial sweetness and protein-powdered small talk. But the joy had drained from the dumbbells.

By 2005, I snapped. The gym had become a perfume counter with resistance bands. I fled to the one place where the spirit of muscle still breathed: my garage. I bought a set of kettlebells and never looked back. No waiting for equipment. No toe fungus lurking in communal showers. No ex-frat boys flexing in front of mirrors while discussing their smoothie macros. Just me, my iron cannonballs, and the relentless clang of salvation.

As I reflect on my exile from Gym Nation, I’ve made peace with my reasons. Let me count the ways:

I like people. I enjoy storytelling, especially if it involves morally questionable behavior and a dash of scandal. But I can’t dish gossip and deadlift at the same time. I’m not that talented. The gym wants you to be a social butterfly with deltoids, but I want solitude and sweat.

I used to catch colds with the regularity of a school nurse—four times a year like clockwork. Every cardio machine was a petri dish disguised as fitness equipment.

And don’t get me started on the showers. You haven’t known dread until you’ve seen a septuagenarian air-drying his nether regions for forty-five minutes like a puffy white heron. Showering was a biohazard. Not showering meant marinating in my own musk, turning my car into a rolling terrarium of mildew and despair.

Gyms also close for holidays, which is when I need them most—Thanksgiving rage, New Year’s guilt, Fourth-of-July shame. My garage, on the other hand, never takes a day off. It’s always open, always angry, always welcoming.

And the waiting. Dear God, the waiting. I train fast, like I’m running from the ghosts of carbs past. Having to wait ten minutes for a squat rack while someone scrolls Instagram is a crime against the pump.

I spent about a thousand bucks on kettlebells, from 10 to 80 pounds. That may sound steep, but compared to a decade of gas, membership fees, and viral exposure? It’s a steal.

This garage of mine—it’s not just a space. It’s a holy temple of kettlebell discipline. A shrine to simplicity, sweat, and solitude. And I’ll keep swinging those iron orbs until I drop dead—or transcend into Valhalla, kettlebell in hand.

May 14, 2025