Cinemorphosis

Category: Health and Fitness

  • The Futility of Resisting Chronological Drift Syndrome

    The Futility of Resisting Chronological Drift Syndrome

    Eight years ago, at a funeral—an appropriate venue for truth disguised as humor—my cousin, a retired ophthalmologist and former hospital administrator, told me his greatest challenge in retirement was finding enough time to spend his money. It landed as a joke with a faint echo of confession. Back then, he was still visible—still a man whose time, opinions, and presence registered on the social radar.

    Now, in his mid-seventies, the joke has curdled. He tells me the most striking feature of aging is not pain, not decline, but disappearance. People look past him as if he were a smudge on the lens he once spent a career perfecting. He has entered Graylight Erasure: still present in the room, but no longer illuminated by attention, interest, or acknowledgment. The body remains; the spotlight moves on.

    I’ve tried to account for this vanishing act, and the first culprit is economic. Consumer culture is a young man’s game—desire, impulse, upgrade, repeat. When you fall out of that loop, you don’t just lose purchasing power; you lose narrative value. You become a spectator in a drama that no longer requires your participation. This is Market Exit Obsolescence: the quiet demotion that occurs when you age out of the demographic worth seducing. The ads stop speaking to you, and soon enough, so do people.

    The second cause is more primitive: denial. Aging is bad for morale. It interrupts the fantasy that time is generous and endings are negotiable. Youth is a fever dream in which mortality is a rumor; old age is the nutrition label you avoided reading—the one that ruins the snack. An older person carries inconvenient data: limits, deadlines, the unadvertised fine print of being alive. And no one likes a walking disclosure statement.

    So the culture develops a reflex. Call it the Mortality Contagion Effect—the quiet recoil from those who remind us, without trying, that the clock is not decorative. As if proximity might transmit the condition. As if attention were a kind of exposure.

    My cousin didn’t lose his competence, his intelligence, or his history. He lost his audience. And in a culture that equates attention with existence, that loss feels less like aging and more like erasure.

    Watching my cousin—healthy, financially well-off, and increasingly ignored—I see what aging really delivers: Chronological Drift Syndrome. It’s the moment you realize the culture has shifted into a higher gear while you’re still driving the same well-maintained car. The rhythms change, the references mutate, the priorities rebrand overnight, and suddenly you’re not wrong—you’re just out of sync. You haven’t stopped moving; the world has simply sped past you and called it progress.

    As you age, you may attempt to resist this growing misalignment with youth culture. You may try to make yourself youthful with potions, makeovers, and pharmaceuticals, but these measures will soon backfire. You will find that fighting Chronological Drift Syndrome is a bit like sprinting on a moving walkway that’s headed the other way—you burn calories, attract attention, and end up exactly where you started, only louder and slightly winded. The harder you try to keep up—deploying borrowed slang, auditioning for trends, nodding along to references you Googled ten minutes earlier—the more you resemble a man trying to crash a party he once hosted. 

    Desperation has a smell, and it pairs poorly with youth culture, which detects inauthenticity the way a smoke alarm detects toast. The irony is brutal: the effort to remain relevant is what renders you ridiculous. The more elegant move is to step off the conveyor, plant your feet, and accept the drift with a straight back and a sense of humor. Dignity, unlike trends, ages well.

  • The Appetite Recursion Loop

    The Appetite Recursion Loop

    Looking back, I can trace a clean, ugly line connecting my love of watches and my love of food: appetite, indulgence, anger, shame. It’s not a lifestyle. It’s a loop. I want more than I should, I give in, I punish myself for giving in, and then I reset the machine and start again. Call it the Appetite Recursion Loop—a closed system where desire feeds indulgence, indulgence feeds shame, and shame reloads desire with fresh ammunition. It feels inevitable because, most days, it is.

    Appetite and chaos are my factory settings. In the early ’90s, when I lived in a bachelor pad that smelled like basil and ambition, my Navy SEAL friend Mike would call and say, “McMahon, I can hear you chewing through the phone. Every time I call, you’re eating. What is it now, Fat Face?”

    “Angel hair pasta with pesto.”

    “Sounds dangerous. I’m coming over.”

    And he would—arriving just in time to annihilate whatever I’d cooked. His metabolism ran on military drills and Pacific swells; mine ran on fantasy and carbohydrates. He burned calories like a wildfire. I cultivated them.

    He once called with an offer: Santa Barbara, surfing, and a setup with a friend of his girlfriend’s. “Now can you surf?” he asked.

    That’s how I found myself on excursions that had nothing to do with waves and everything to do with spectacle.

    Mike lived with his father, Bob—a former Marine with a foghorn voice and a temper that could peel paint. Their daily routine was a ritualized war: shouting about lawns, garages, groceries—two men chesting up like rival roosters while spit flew. Five minutes later, ceasefire. We’d pile into Mike’s Toyota for Mongolian beef with Social Distortion rattling the doors. Back home, John Wayne on the TV, Bob opening his gun safe “in case the Duke needs backup.” To me, this wasn’t dysfunction. It was familiar. It was home.

    I was raised in a house where anger was the native language. Fathers barked, belts translated. When rage is your baseline, it’s like living with your brain tuned permanently to a Death Metal station. Eventually, you stop hearing it. You call it normal. It isn’t.

    I know that now because I married a woman fourteen years younger than me, and we have twin teenage daughters who have no interest in Death Metal Dad. They want something closer to Smooth Jazz—Bach, Earth, Wind & Fire—anything that doesn’t rattle the drywall. They’re right. Rage isn’t masculinity. It’s intoxication. A sloppy, corrosive one.

    My version of sobriety isn’t about alcohol. It’s about anger. That means tracking triggers like a customs agent. One of the biggest? New watches. Shiny objects flip a switch. The Death Metal station hums back to life. Desire spikes, anxiety follows, and then comes the familiar hangover: self-reproach with a side of irritability. I become a joyless man—Grandma Sour Pants in sneakers. My family doesn’t want to be around me. Frankly, neither do I.

    Money isn’t the problem. I can afford the watches. What I can’t afford is the noise. I own eight pieces worth about fifteen grand, and even that feels like mental bookkeeping—rotations, rationalizations, inventory control for a hobby that was supposed to be fun. If I owned twelve, I’d need a project manager and a therapist. My watch friends say, “Life is short. Buy what you want.” That’s not wisdom. That’s indulgence wearing a tie. A man-child with a credit card is still a man-child—and no man-child is happy. He buys to outrun loneliness, and the purchases lose every race.

    Ninety-five percent of my buys were impulsive. Which means ninety-five percent were evidence—exhibits entered into the case against my maturity. I sold most of them at a loss, not because I needed the cash, but because I needed to feel like I wasn’t owned by my own impulses.

    I’m a product of the Me-Generation—California, ’70s, self as deity. Stories I Only Tell My Friends captures it perfectly: the Counterculture as the Worship of the Self—whatever the Self wants, the Self gets. No brakes, no compass. Malibu as a sunlit laboratory for beautiful people making terrible decisions. When desire becomes sacred, reality becomes optional—and the bill comes due.

    When I see a watch I love, my brain lights up like I’ve just taken a hit of something illegal. Desire surges. Then anger—because the loss of control is the real offense. I don’t want rehab for watches. I want a hobby that fits inside reality instead of dragging me out of it. Pleasure without compulsion. Enjoyment without obsession. A life without permanent FOMO.

    And here’s the final punchline: even writing this makes me nostalgic for being sixteen in Santa Monica and Malibu in 1976. I start looking backward like Lot’s wife, feel the salt forming, the Death Metal station warming up again. That’s my cue. Change the channel.

    Which is why I wonder if the shift to the G-Shock Frogman was an attempt at self-surgery—a clean cauterization of the need for more. A reset. My G-Shock friends laugh. The Frogman isn’t the cure, they say. It’s Act One of a new addiction.

    If they’re right, then “I Am the Frogman” isn’t transformation.

    It’s mythology.

    And I’m the one who wrote it.

  • “I Am the Frogman”: The Last Shout Before the Door Seals

    “I Am the Frogman”: The Last Shout Before the Door Seals

    I’ve spent more than a decade documenting my watch obsession on YouTube—a pursuit that begins as hobby and ends, if you’re not careful, as behavioral conditioning. You think you’re making videos. You’re actually being trained. The algorithm dispenses rewards and punishments with clinical indifference: views, comments, silence. You adapt. Of course you adapt. That’s the job now.

    The trouble is that the algorithm has no interest in truth, balance, or restraint. It prefers spectacle. It rewards the emotional range of a teenager who’s just discovered caffeine: hyperbole, dread, euphoria, FOMO, regret—delivered with the urgency of a man announcing the end of civilization via bezel insert. You wake up one morning and discover you’ve succumbed to Algorithmic Persona Drift—a slow mutation in which your public self becomes a louder, shinier, more hysterical version engineered for attention rather than accuracy.

    Feed it, and it feeds you back. The cycle tightens. Every video must be more decisive, more apocalyptic, more “this changes everything.” You produce manifestos. You narrate epiphanies. You analyze your own obsession with the intensity of a man dissecting his own heartbeat. The result is predictable: you become a caricature of yourself—recognizable, marketable, and faintly absurd.

    If you can tolerate that, the system will reward you. The numbers rise. The revenue trickles, then flows. You build a small empire out of controlled exaggeration. But there comes a moment—quiet, unwelcome—when you no longer recognize the man delivering the lines. The performance has outgrown the person. At that point, the decision presents itself with unpleasant clarity: keep feeding the machine and let it finish the job, or step away and salvage what remains of your voice.

    That’s one exit.

    The other is less dignified. You don’t leave; you are expelled. The causes are familiar—burnout, self-disgust, ennui, health—but the most decisive is also the least negotiable: age. You wake up one day and realize the tempo has changed. The rhythms that once animated you now sound distant, like music leaking from another room. The new release, the hyped drop, the celebrity of the week—none of it lands with the old voltage. Mortality has entered the conversation and lowered the volume.

    You try to resist. You tell yourself enthusiasm is a choice. But the gap widens anyway. You find yourself oddly relieved that you no longer care about bracelet articulation or dial gradients or the fever dream that the “perfect collection” is one purchase away. The brotherhood reveals itself for what it always was: half fellowship, half support group. You no longer feel the urge to compare scars from impulse buys, to laugh at the madness, to whisper—half-serious, half-hopeful—that this watch will finally cure you.

    For me, the separation was unmistakable. Twenty years dissolved into a blur of rotating bezels and contingency divers. Then, at sixty-three, something tapped my shoulder. Not a crisis. A correction. The obsession didn’t die; it simply lost its authority. Desire dimmed, replaced by a quiet recognition that watches are exquisitely engineered ways of losing to time.

    The feeling calls to mind a scene from Battlestar Galactica: a traitor sealed behind glass, the airlock hissing, the crew watching with solemn finality. Not melodrama—procedure. That’s aging. Not tragic, not cruel—inevitable. At some point, those still inside the illusion of endless tomorrows begin to edge away from those who have seen the horizon contract.

    A pane descends. It isn’t hostile. It’s accurate.

    You tap the glass, wave, try to rejoin the cockpit of youthful urgency. You even lift your wrist—your hulking G-Shock Frogman—and make your case. “Look,” you want to say, “I’m still in it.” But the seal has set. Reentry is not part of the design.

    What remains is less dramatic and more demanding: dignity. Accept the season you’re in. Build meaning instead of inventory. Offer something useful to those still racing ahead, even if they don’t yet see why it matters. They will. Everyone does, eventually.

    The algorithm fades. The noise recedes.

    And you are left, at last, with a quieter, harder question: not what you want next—but who you intend to be without the applause.

  • The Frogman and the Sandwich

    The Frogman and the Sandwich

    The Frogman is my aspirational self. He is courageous and disciplined. I am not. I am a coward. My self-recrimination is based on the fact that I allow fear to compromise my morals. For example, I am revolted by the way livestock is abused for our animal consumption so that philosophically I should not eat meat, eggs, or dairy, but I fear that a plant-based diet will not give me optimal nutrition. Nor will it quell my rapacious appetite, so I compromise my morals and “force myself” to eat steak, chicken, eggs, cottage cheese, and Greek yogurt. The Frogman is a man of conviction. He looks at a moral problem square in the face and behaves appropriately. Gluttony is not part of his lifestyle. My soul is tormented by my awareness of the Avatar Conscience Gap: the distance between one’s idealized self—disciplined, principled, unflinching—and one’s actual behavior under pressure. The wider the gap, the louder the internal indictment, as the imagined avatar (in my case, the Frogman) functions as a constant moral comparator. My Frogman sits on my wrist, silent, resin-clad, a metronome of judgment. I measure myself against him and come up short in ways that feel precise, almost clinical. 

    Which brings us to actual clinical measurements.

    My doctor wants bloodwork—the full audit: PSA, lipids, liver function, hemoglobin. A bureaucratic harvest of numbers designed to convert my bloodstream into a spreadsheet. I concede the PSA. The rest feels like theater. At 230 pounds—twenty over my preferred fiction—my numbers will behave, mostly. LDL will be slightly elevated, the biochemical equivalent of a raised eyebrow. Twenty extra pounds leaves fingerprints. It always does.

    At 210, those fingerprints disappear. At 210, my labs don’t just improve—they absolve. At 210, I become the Frogman, at least on paper. A man whose blood tells a cleaner story.

    But I don’t need a blood test to tell me what to do. I need to lose twenty pounds. And I will be told this, formally, in a tone of gentle inevitability. A “plan of action,” as if the problem were logistical rather than existential.

    I cannot promise compliance.

    I eat well. Whole foods. High protein. I abstain from alcohol. I perform all the rituals of discipline. And yet my appetite behaves like an unlicensed contractor—loud, insistent, unconcerned with permits or plans.

    Last night, after dinner, I swore the kitchen closed at six. A solemn vow, made with the confidence of a man who has not yet opened a lunch bag.

    Then I found it: an uneaten turkey and cheese sandwich in my daughter’s bag. Soft bread. Mild cheese. The faint scent of opportunity.

    There was no debate. No internal summit. I ate it immediately, gratefully, with the kind of focus normally reserved for religious experience. It was, without exaggeration, the best moment of my day.

    This is Sandwich Serendipity—the ecstatic discovery of unclaimed food, experienced not as leftovers but as providence. The afflicted man does not assess freshness, provenance, or caloric cost. He does not negotiate with tomorrow’s intentions. He receives the sandwich as a gift from the universe and responds with immediate devotion.

    You can moralize this if you like. I won’t. The joy is too pure.

    But it does raise an inconvenient question: how does a man like this—susceptible to ambush by deli meat and porridge bread—promise a physician that he will lose twenty pounds? On what authority? On which version of himself?

    Because the Frogman would not have eaten that sandwich.

    The Frogman would have zipped the bag, closed the kitchen, and gone to bed with the calm of a man aligned with his values. The Frogman does not forage. He does not improvise. He does not surrender.

    I put the watch on anyway.

    It sits on my wrist like a massive, indestructible accusation—resin, digital, exact. It broadcasts courage. It implies discipline. It suggests a man who has made his decisions and is living inside them.

    And beneath it, quietly, is the truth:

    I am not that man.

    Not yet.

  • The Business Model of Suffering and Abuse on Reality TV

    The Business Model of Suffering and Abuse on Reality TV

    We were discussing their current essay assignment: an excavation of cruelty masquerading as inspiration in the TV show The Biggest Loser. The facts alone read like satire written by a misanthrope: contestants more than 200 pounds overweight were pushed through eight-hour training days, incinerating close to 8,000 calories while being rationed roughly 800. Add caffeine pills, a chorus of screaming trainers, and the steady drip of public humiliation, and you have less a fitness program than a stress test for organ failure. That none of the contestants died feels less like good management and more like statistical luck. That millions watched—enthusiastically—says something unflattering about us.

    I show them Fit for Life documentary, which functions as a kind of aftermath report. Former contestants speak with the clarity that only distance provides. They describe trauma, yes, but also something more complicated: the show gave them structure, purpose, a narrative. It brutalized them and, perversely, steadied them. Most gained the weight back. Some now lean on GLP-1 drugs, their appetites chemically negotiated into submission. But all of them remember the same thing—the mercilessness was not incidental; it was the engine.

    I asked my students why I had assigned this essay. What, exactly, were they supposed to uncover?

    At the micro level, we peeled back the familiar myths. The cult of self-discipline—so comforting in its simplicity—lets us ignore biology, environment, and the sheer stubbornness of appetite. Bodies become symbols: power or failure, virtue or laziness, depending on who’s looking. We noted the obvious but rarely confronted statistic—most Americans are overweight—and the uncomfortable reality that GLP-1 drugs may be the only intervention that consistently works at scale.

    Then the room shifted. One student volunteered that she was on a GLP-1. The first weeks were a gauntlet of nausea and vomiting, but now the drug—Mounjaro—had quieted her hunger to a whisper. Thirty pounds gone in two months. Another student offered a counterpoint that landed harder: her father had been one of the exceptions. The drug didn’t help him lose weight. It helped him lose kidney function. As she spoke, she mentioned he was now on dialysis. The room absorbed that in silence. Miracle and risk, side by side, no clean narrative available.

    So we zoomed out.

    To design a show that courts physical danger and guarantees humiliation—for ratings, for merchandise, for the grotesque satisfaction of watching someone crack—is not an accident. It’s a business model. That’s the first kind of evil: deliberate, calculated, fully aware. Cynical evil. The producers know exactly what they’re doing. They understand the cruelty, and they monetize it.

    The second kind is quieter and more common. It belongs to the audience. Viewers sense the moral problem—on some level they know this is exploitation—but they file that knowledge away so it won’t interfere with their evening entertainment. They watch, they flinch, they keep watching. Call it willed ignorance. A cultivated habit of not asking questions that might ruin the pleasure.

    I told them, half-serious but not really joking, that if we were ranking things, cynical evil is a ten. Willed-ignorant evil sits comfortably at a seven—less flamboyant, more pervasive.

    Something clicked. The word evil—unfashionable, blunt, almost embarrassing in academic settings—cut through the fog. The discussion woke up. Students leaned in, argued, confessed discomfort, revised their positions in real time. The assignment stopped being an exercise and became a lens.

    That was the moment worth noticing. Sometimes you have to pull the camera back. Stop pretending the essay is about structure and sources and let students see the larger architecture: what the topic reveals about us, what it demands we confront, and why it matters that we do.

  • Sandwich Serendipity and the Futility of Bloodwork

    Sandwich Serendipity and the Futility of Bloodwork

    My doctor wants bloodwork—a full panel: PSA, lipids, liver function, hemoglobin—the entire bureaucratic inquisition, designed to convert my bloodstream into a tidy Excel file. I concede the PSA; no one wants to play roulette with prostate cancer. But the rest feels like an elaborate confirmation of what I already know. At 230 pounds—twenty over my fighting weight—my numbers will behave themselves, with the lone exception of LDL, which will arrive slightly smug and slightly elevated. Twenty extra pounds always leaves a trace, like fingerprints at a low-stakes crime scene. At 210, those same labs would glow with moral rectitude, the biochemical equivalent of a pressed shirt and a firm handshake.

    What I need is not diagnostics but discipline. The blood test will not reveal anything that a mirror and a waistband haven’t already disclosed. When the results come back, I’ll receive the ritual “plan of action,” translated from medical into plain English: lose twenty pounds. A reasonable directive. Also a promise I cannot make. I eat clean. I eat whole foods. I load up on protein. I’ve exiled alcohol. None of it matters. My appetite has the temperament of a teenager in shoulder pads, pacing the sidelines and waiting for the next snap.

    Spare me the reminder that I’m approaching sixty-five. My hunger did not get the memo. Last night, after dinner, after I had sworn a blood oath to stop eating at six, I began clearing out my daughter’s lunch bag and discovered it: an untouched turkey and cheese sandwich, wrapped in quiet indifference. There was no debate, no moral tribunal. I ate it immediately, reverently, savoring the soft, faintly sweet Trader Joe’s porridge bread as if it had been prepared for me by a benevolent deity with a sense of humor. It was, without exaggeration, the best moment of my day.

    You can dress this up as weakness, but that misses the phenomenon. This is Sandwich Serendipity—the electric, unearned joy of finding an uneaten sandwich where none should exist. It is not leftovers; it is treasure. It is the culinary equivalent of discovering cash in an old jacket or rubbing a lamp and having lunch appear. The afflicted man does not pause to assess freshness, provenance, or caloric impact. He does not negotiate with his better angels. He consumes. The sandwich is accepted as a gift from the universe, a brief amnesty from restraint, a shining interruption in an otherwise disciplined life.

    This is the man sitting across from the doctor, nodding politely at the mention of triglycerides and lifestyle modification. This is the man being asked to promise weight loss. And the honest answer—the only answer worth giving—is this: I will try. But somewhere, in some forgotten lunch bag, a sandwich is waiting. And when it calls, I will answer.

  • The Man Who Never Asked

    The Man Who Never Asked

    My wife has been sending me comedy skits about a subject that isn’t remotely funny: the epidemic of friendless adult men. The message arrives dressed as humor but lands as indictment—get off your ass and build a life that includes other human beings. Not for entertainment. For survival. For the family.

    The problem is I don’t know how.

    My friendships didn’t end with a bang; they evaporated. One by one, they thinned out, like hair in a drain, until nothing remained. I haven’t met a friend for a movie and a meal in nearly twenty-five years. Solitude didn’t ambush me; it settled in and redecorated. It became my default setting. Worse, it feels justified. I operate under a quiet but tyrannical assumption: no one would willingly spend that kind of time with me. Why would they? Friendship requires an investment, and I’ve already decided I’m not worth the return. Rejection is neatly avoided by never making the ask. A preemptive surrender disguised as dignity.

    When I think about how this calcified, I go back to 2005. My cousin and I met for dinner in downtown Los Angeles. Afterward, he wanted to extend the evening—drive twenty minutes to a coffee shop, linger, talk. I felt the anxiety rise like a fever. Dinner had been the contract; anything beyond it felt like trespass. I went along, reluctantly. He noticed. He never asked again. He moved on to a life crowded with friendships, a calendar he has to prune. I perfected the art of leaving early.

    I come by this honestly. My parents spent the last three decades of their lives without friends. My father borrowed social contact through his second wife but never rebuilt what he lost. My mother claimed friendships the way a customer claims familiarity with a waiter—pleasant, transactional, imaginary. Loneliness wasn’t diagnosed in our household; it was modeled. It looked normal. It felt inevitable.

    My parents weren’t bad people. They were self-involved, chemically compromised, and emotionally unavailable. My father once told me that if he could do it over again, he wouldn’t have children. People recoil when they hear that. I didn’t. It had the ring of truth I had already lived with. My mother, meanwhile, oscillated between warmth and collapse. Her depressions were so severe she disappeared into hospitals, and I disappeared into my grandparents’ house. Childhood became something to endure rather than inhabit.

    So I adapted. I became self-contained. I entertained myself. I eliminated the need for others before they could eliminate me. Being alone wasn’t a failure; it was a system.

    In my twenties, desire disrupted that system. I wanted relationships, so I built a version of myself that could get them. I became talkative, confident, funny—an actor with good timing and a decent script. It worked. Women believed in the character. So did I. But the performance had no depth. It couldn’t sustain love because it wasn’t built on vulnerability, only on impression. The relationships collapsed under the weight of my anxiety and selfishness. I could attract; I could not attach.

    That hasn’t entirely changed. I can still be charming in controlled environments. My colleagues enjoy me in passing. I can generate conversation the way a barista generates foam—pleasant, temporary, nonbinding. But conversation is not friendship. Friendship requires escalation, risk, the unthinkable act of asking someone to step outside the script and spend time with you. That’s where I freeze. I assume the answer will be no, and so I never pose the question. It’s a tidy system: I protect myself from rejection by guaranteeing isolation.

    This morning, sitting in my car waiting to take my daughters to school, I almost performed another ritual of avoidance. I reached for my watch, ready to photograph it for Instagram—a small offering to the gods of trivial validation. For a moment, I considered it. Then the idea repulsed me. The absurdity of it. As if a watch photo could compensate for a hollow social life. As if attention could substitute for connection. It felt like feeding a hunger with sugar and calling it nourishment.

    So I sat there instead, thinking about those videos my wife keeps sending me. They’re funny in the way a diagnosis can be funny—because it’s accurate. She’s worried. She should be.

    The truth is simple and unflattering: I’ve built a life that minimizes risk and, in doing so, minimizes connection. If I want to be less of a burden to my family, I have to become someone who can love beyond the walls of his own habits. That means doing the one thing I’ve spent decades avoiding.

    It means asking.

  • The Quiet Art of Not Wasting Your Life

    The Quiet Art of Not Wasting Your Life

    If we care about the state of our souls, we have to ask a difficult question: How do we treat time as a sacred, limited gift—something to be used with urgency, yet protected by stillness? In other words, how do we move with purpose without surrendering to the chaos of perpetual hurry?

    My problem—one I can’t dodge—is how easily I waste time while convincing myself I’m doing something worthwhile. I wake up intending to write, but drift into “research”: consumer products I don’t need, fitness principles I already know, or whatever flickers across my screen and triggers FOMO. The drain is subtle but relentless. A morning that should belong to reading and writing dissolves into trivial pursuits. I justify it with a familiar lie: I am a nobody with nothing to say. What difference does it make if I squander a few hours? Why not entertain myself instead?

    These rationalizations amount to treating my life with reckless disregard. They expose something uglier beneath the surface—a low sense of self-worth and a quiet flirtation with nihilism, the belief that nothing really matters.

    Of course, talk is cheap. I can articulate all of this with precision and still change nothing. I tell myself my habits should align with my beliefs, echoing Arthur Brooks from The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness. But knowledge without discipline is decoration. When I waste time online, it doesn’t just distract me—it diminishes me. It acts like kryptonite. I become a lesser version of myself.

    I know the alternative. When I guard my attention, I compose longer, more ambitious piano pieces. When I don’t, I squeeze creativity into leftover scraps of time and produce reheated versions of my past work—safe, derivative, forgettable.

    It is astonishing how easily we waste time and then defend the waste, even when the defense collapses under minimal scrutiny. I remember falling into this pattern around the year 2000, when the internet first began its quiet takeover. Looking back, I think of Jim Harrison’s line: “It’s so easy to piss away your life on nonsense.” The accuracy is almost cruel.

    This realization struck me again this morning. I had “nothing” to write about, yet decided to open John Mark Comer’s The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry. Within two pages, the emptiness I claimed dissolved into a torrent of thoughts—about chaos, distraction, sacred versus profane time, and the psychology of hurry itself.

    Comer has reason to feel overwhelmed. As a pastor delivering six teachings every Sunday to accommodate a growing congregation, burnout is almost inevitable. My situation is the inverse. I am a college writing instructor with an abundance of free time, and with retirement a year away, that abundance is about to expand into something even larger—and potentially more dangerous.

    Comer imagines his future: a successful pastor, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker. By every external metric, he wins. But internally, he sees something else—hollowness, irritability, exhaustion, and a life that feels “emotionally unhealthy and spiritually shallow.” He barely recognizes himself.

    So he steps away. After a decade of acceleration, he takes a sabbatical. He sees a therapist. Stripped of his role as a megachurch pastor—the centerpiece of his identity—he feels disoriented, describing himself as “a drug addict coming off meth.” He has time now, but no clarity about who he is without the machinery of constant activity.

    He frames his book simply: imagine meeting him for coffee in Portland, talking about how not to drown in the “hypermodern” world. His approach is explicitly Christian, rooted in the life and teachings of Jesus, and aimed at answering a deceptively simple question: what does it mean to rest? And more importantly, how does one rest in a culture that equates value with speed?

    I approach this with skepticism. I’ve been a Christian-obsessed agnostic since I was seventeen, and I have little patience for spiritual platitudes. Still, Comer has earned his authority through suffering, not abstraction. He anticipates my resistance and addresses it directly: “If you want a quick fix or a three-step formula in an easy acronym, this book isn’t for you either. There’s no silver bullet for life. No life hack for the soul. Life is extraordinarily complex. Change is even more so. Anybody who says differently is selling you something.”

    That alone earns my attention.

    So I’ll take the invitation. I’ll sit down for coffee and listen to what he has to say in his so-called “anti-hurry manifesto.”

  • The Last Man in Orthopedic Loafers and Elastic-Waist Pants

    The Last Man in Orthopedic Loafers and Elastic-Waist Pants

    Aging doesn’t ask for your permission; it revises you anyway. Somewhere in your fifties and sixties, the body starts filing small grievances—slower recovery, dimmer recall, a half-step lost where you used to be crisp. The gap between who you were at your peak and who you are now widens just enough to notice. From that gap, a familiar assumption creeps in: that the later years should be quieter, safer, smaller—that the future is no longer a frontier but a managed environment. Call it Horizon Collapse: possibility shrinks to what’s nearby and controllable, and ambition is gently escorted out as an unruly guest.

    Prudence has its place. You don’t need to flirt with injury to prove you’re alive. But push prudence a notch too far and you build a Comfort Cage—a life engineered for ease that quietly imprisons curiosity, risk, and meaning. The edges are padded, the lighting is flattering, and nothing hurts. That’s the problem. When nothing hurts, nothing demands anything of you, and the day becomes a sequence of agreeable non-events. The soul, deprived of friction, goes slack.

    What’s more troubling is how this posture has escaped the retirement brochure and gone mainstream. Convenience has metastasized into a philosophy. With enough apps, prompts, and gentle automation, you can outsource not just your errands but your thinking. The result is Existential Downsizing: a voluntary reduction of one’s life to what is safe, efficient, and easily optimized. Big aims look wasteful; difficulty looks optional; meaning becomes a luxury item you can’t quite justify. We’ve confused the removal of obstacles with the arrival of purpose.

    This is the cultural air that breeds what Friedrich Nietzsche called the Last Man in Thus Spoke Zarathustra—a figure who has traded ambition for comfort and calls the bargain progress. He isn’t villainous; he’s deflating. He prefers safety to greatness, ease to excellence, consensus to conviction. Having minimized risk, he also minimizes transformation. He is content, and his contentment is the problem: a steady, blinking satisfaction in a life that no longer reaches beyond itself.

    Age can tempt you into this posture—“I’ve done enough; let me coast”—but so can technology. You don’t need bad knees to stop striving; you just need a system that makes striving feel unnecessary. In that sense, the Last Man is not a demographic. He’s a setting.

    I can’t pretend this isn’t a bleak picture. The best parts of my life have come from the opposite impulse: sitting at a piano until something stubborn yields; writing long, obsessive pieces that refuse to resolve themselves quickly; watching comedians build an hour of precision out of years of invisible labor. None of that is compatible with a life optimized for convenience. Achievement is allergic to ease. It requires time, friction, and a willingness to look foolish on the way to something that might matter.

    At sixty-four, with retirement approaching, the question isn’t whether decline exists—it does—but whether it gets to dictate the terms. The temptation is to let a slower body and a noisier mind argue for a smaller life. The counterargument is simple and hard: keep choosing projects that resist you. Keep placing demands on yourself that comfort would veto. Otherwise, you’ll end up perfectly safe, perfectly managed, and perfectly diminished—living proof that when you optimize for ease, you don’t just remove obstacles. You remove the reasons to move at all.

  • Leanmaxxing and the New Fantasy of Frictionless Medicine

    Leanmaxxing and the New Fantasy of Frictionless Medicine

    As a boy watching Star Trek, I was transfixed by the Tricorder–that tidy slab of certainty doctors waved over a body the way a priest might wave incense over a mystery. No scalpels, no tubes, no anxious waiting rooms with their stale magazines and fluorescent despair. A quick scan, a soft chirp, and the problem surrendered. The body, usually so coy and uncooperative, became a readable document–its secrets itemized, its fate clarified. It was medicine without friction, diagnosis without drama. In that universe, ignorance lasted seconds.

    For decades, the Tricorder sat where all good fantasies sit: just out of reach, gleaming with impossible efficiency. But reality has a way of cheating. The future did not arrive as a handheld scanner; it arrived as chemistry–specifically, a class of drugs that seems to negotiate directly with the body’s most stubborn impulses. If the Tricorder promised instant knowledge, GLP-1 drugs promise something more unnerving: the quiet rewriting of appetite, metabolism, and behavior from the inside out.

    In her New York Times essay “The Great Ozempic Experiment,” Julia Belluz catalogs the early returns, and they read less like a drug profile than a wish list that forgot to edit itself. Yes, there’s weight loss–the headline act–but the understudies keep stealing the show: concussion recovery, addiction dampening, relief from menopause symptoms, long COVID, alopecia, inflammation, arthritis, IBS, anxiety, brain fog. The list grows with the confidence of a rumor that keeps being confirmed. By the time you finish reading, you suspect the drug might also fix your credit score.

    The catch, for now, is almost comically modest: nausea and paperwork. The body may revolt briefly; the insurance company may revolt permanently. Yet demand surges, fueled by users who report not just slimmer bodies but upgraded lives–better mood, sharper focus, revived social calendars, improved fertility. It’s less a medication than a lifestyle intervention with a prescription pad.

    Clinicians, watching this unfold, have begun to reach for a new framework–the “root-cause” theory–because the old boxes no longer hold. These drugs don’t respect the tidy borders between endocrine, cardiovascular, and neurological disease; they trespass, improve, and move on. Even more disorienting, benefits appear in patients who don’t lose weight at all: better heart, liver, and kidney function, as if the drug were quietly tuning systems we didn’t know were connected.

    And here is where the story turns from miracle to question mark. As GLP-1 use spreads–along with the culture’s sudden enthusiasm for “leanmaxxing”–we risk trading one distortion for another: the cartoon body, now achieved pharmacologically rather than cosmetically. It is far too early to crown these drugs the real-world Tricorder, and just as premature to condemn them as a Faustian bargain. Like AI, they are moving faster than our ability to narrate them. We are watching a technology outrun our categories, and the only honest response, for now, is attention without prophecy.